Consult a therapist
Any time you’re preparing for a big step in your trauma healing process, such as approaching your family about sexual abuse, seeking the guidance and support of a mental health professional can be extremely helpful. A trauma-informed therapist or counselor can help you come up with a plan and decide exactly how, when, and where to open up this conversation with your family.
Outline your goals
Regardless of whether or not you have a therapist to help you in this process, start by outlining your goals.
What do you hope to gain from having this conversation with your family?
Do you have specific requests for your family, such as wanting them to seek counseling together?
Are there certain ways you want your family to support you as you navigate your healing process?
Whatever your hopes and goals are, defining them ahead of time can help you feel more focused and grounded when talking to your family.
Decide on a format
Depending on your circumstances, having this conversation face to face with your family might not feel possible, comfortable, or even safe. Decide ahead of time how this conversation will happen – in person, over the phone, or in writing.